It's Hao Re's 4th birthday on the 4th January 2011.
Happy birthday to you, my dearest Hao Re!
Since it's his birthday, I gonna spend sometime writing something about Hao Re.......
As many of my fellow mummies commented, and if you have been following our blog for a while, you would have figured that Hao Re belongs to those good boy category. Bringing him up for the last 4 year has been a very easy sailing one, with nothing much for us to worry about. Since newborn till now, he sleeps well, eats well, drinks well, develops well in all aspects, and stays very healthy all year long. He rarely cried or whined, not even during teething period (we didn't even notice when his wisdom teeth erupted). He eats literally everything, most if not all types of vegetables, meats, fruits, other food. He started to like junk food when we became very relax about his food intake about a year ago. He likes all sorts of activities, indoor and outdoor, action or quiet, from drawing, painting, puzzles, arts and crafts to singing, dancing, story telling, to swimming, playground, sandplay, he never fused about anything. Since the first day Xi Yu was born, Hao Re has been the greatest big brother to her, entertaining her, playing with her, protecting her and sharing things with her. Surely they fight at times, but he loves his Meimei, no doubt about that. He called her "Hao Re Gorgor's princess"!
He is a bright and smart kid. Love to learn new things and learn things at a very fast and steady pace. He is sensible, he is caring, he is loving. He is such a perfect kid, in my eyes, I love him to bits!
Until recently. Recently mean starting in early December.
First he refused going to childcare. Cried murder every morning when we dropped him at childcare. Nothing worked to stop him from crying. He used to take on reasoning very well, as long as we can come up with an explanation that he would accept, he would obediently follow what we said. But not this time. Even though during the car ride, I have talked and talked and told him that we needed to work so they need to go to childcare, he seemed okay but once I was about to leave, he clinged on to my leg and cried till my heart's broken. That went on for the entire month, till his last day of school at the previous childcare (pray hard he would stop that with this new childcare).
Second, he likes to beat people. A little violent. This could be due to the fact that he reads lots of superhero books, magazines and comics. I know it's not age appropriate, but he just loves them! I try my best to control, at least he hasn't watched any on the screen.
Third, which is the worst to me, he doesn't take to reasoning anymore! When he says A, we must get him or do A. No tolerance for A- or A+ or a or B or whatever. If he doesn't get the A, he would behave very badly. We couldn't figure out why this sudden change of him. Testing our limit? He didn't give us much problems during the most scariest Terrible Twos period but only now. This totally beats me. As I do not know now how to communicate with him. He is generally still a very happy boy. But when he doesn't get what he wants, he becomes the grumpiest, the most difficult boy to handle.
It could be the many changes he has to take and adapt?
It could be part of his growing up process, that he wants to be in control?
It could be that he is really testing us out?
It could be me (as I was very bad temper in the past month, so I lost patient on them)?
Or it's the combination of all the above and more?
No matter what could be the reason, I only wish for one thing. I wish that I could be more patient, that I stop the screaming and shouting, and stop throwing my temper on them, stop giving them the black face, stop sighing in front of them, stop threatening them - in short, stop all the negative things which I shouldn't have started doing :-( Feel like such a big failure! Thankfully my hubby always cool and calm. He is definitely a better parent than me, even though he doesn't read much on parenting, shame on myself! Not easy to stop myself from doing all the above. But I have to try harder, I have to think of ways of cooling down when I start to boil. Hopefully I can constantly remind myself and my hubby is always here to support me.
Hope we will give Hao Re the full support to go through this challenging period. I am hopeful that Hao Re will be a good boy soon and enjoy his childhood as much as he used to (and I enjoy his company).
I couldn't take leave to celebrate his birthday with him like what I did on
his 3rd birthday, as I had taken 1 whole week of urgent leave last week because of my dad. Luckily I have already pre-celebrated his birthday at his previous childcare on the 23rd December, which was also served as their goodbye party.
We love you, Hao Re, you know that, right? Please continue to grow happily and healthily, and be the person you want to be!